Scene: Mom lies face down on her pillow. She suddenly bolts upright to the sounds of laughing and squealing kids. They bust through the door, carrying a dirty cookie sheet with some charred pancakes and room temperature milk. The fire alarm starts going off from the burned bacon they ended up feeding to the dog. Happy Mother’s Day!

Whether you love Mother’s Day or you dread it, Rikki is back to tell us some of the things she does year-round to treat herself!

“If you have 13 kids or even just one, being a mom is hard,” said Rikki. “And quite frankly, one day a year to ‘relax and get spoiled’ is not enough. I fully believe that you need to fill your own cup in order to fill others—fill your reserves if you will. I have a few go-tos to help myself be a better mom.”

Go shopping alone. When Rikki was up to her eyeballs in little kids, she would regularly wait until her husband was home, dinner was over, and kids were in bed to do her grocery shopping. “Being able to wander the aisles without leaving a trail of crushed goldfish behind was refreshing and made me feel like a real human being,” said Rikki.

A bowl full of sugar helps the medicine go down. Rikki explained, “While growing up, our mother would often declare that we were having ‘gourmet cereal’ for dinner. That was code for mama is tired, help yourself to as much Fruity Pebbles as you want.” When the day catches up to her and dinner has not been planned, Rikki breaks out the bowls and the good sugar cereal, and everyone is happy—Rikki included!

Make time for the gym. Sometimes a gym membership isn’t in the budget. But Rikki learned early on that feeling good about her body translated into a better overall attitude. So she got creative in how she could afford her beloved gym: babysitting. Rikki babysits at her local Crossfit gym in exchange for her membership fees. “The whole house agrees,” said Rikki, “that if Mama’s gotten her sweat on, she is much happier!”

Get thee to bed! This has been Rikki’s go-to in getting that much-needed peace and quiet. “I quickly learned that it didn’t matter if I put my kids to bed at 7 PM or 10 PM—they always woke up at the same time the next day. So why not put them to bed early and enjoy some personal time at night?!” Knowing she had the house to herself allowed Rikki to catch up on neglected projects or binge-watch her shows. Not having to share her food or worry about catering to the needs of so many little people is a nighttime treat that Rikki still enjoys to this day.

Momming is hard, whether you’re a kid mom, pet mom, or any mom! Making sure you take care of yourself allows you to be a little bit better at taking care of those you love. Rikki’s tips are a surefire way to get a little R&R. So come Mother’s Day, when you’re cleaning the green smoothie explosion from the kitchen ceiling, you will have little more “mom fuel” in the tank, thanks to your built up reserves.


Rikki Anderson is the little sister of our own Chatbooker-in-Chief, Vanessa Quigley. Rikki is a Florida transplant, living in the shadows of Utah’s mountains. She’s been married for 17 years, has seven kids, two cats, a dog, and a neverending to-do list. Most of the time you can find her at her kids’ sporting events or trying to pressure her husband into just one more cat.