Laundry. Dishes. Mopping. Vacuuming. Picking up toys. Making food. Changing diapers. Repeat. When you look down at your meager two hands, are you wondering how you’ll get it all done? Well, don’t let yourself get too low just yet, Wonder Woman—many moms from our #momforce Facebook group said they ask for outside help to get the job done. We all know things can get a little gnarly sometimes, so we’ve put together a list of tips to help keep the sanity as a stay-at-home mama.

Call the babysitter. Even if it’s not for a date with your partner, a babysitter can help give you a very necessary breather from time to time—even if you just want to go to the store all alone and wander the aisles for as long as you please. You just need to find the right babysitter. In case you don’t live next door to a trustworthy teenager with a good head on their shoulders, do a quick “babysitters in my area” Google search. Most services offer background checks, reviews, and even require their babysitters to be CPR certified. That way you can find the right match for your family and make your great escapes guilt-free!

Mother’s little helper doesn’t have to be your own kid. Find someone in your neighborhood who is too young to babysit (i.e. cheap), but can help you around the house while you’re home. Usually, these kids fit any budget and may be just what you need for monotonous tasks. Need your laundry folded? Dishes washed? Toys picked up? Kids might whine about doing it in their own home, but in someone else’s for cash is a whole different story. Bonus: start grooming them now to be your babysitter in a few years!

Just do it (get a cleaning service). Nothing boosts the mood better than walking into a freshly cleaned house—especially one you didn’t have to clean. Finding a service that’s affordable and reliable is one of the best things you can do for those mommy blues. Even hiring someone just for those nagging little things you’ve had on your to-do list for months, can help you feel accomplished. Every mama who has splurged on a once-in-a-while cleaning service says it’s worth every penny!  

That’s what friends are for. If the budget doesn’t have room for a babysitter or cleaning service, you can always ask a friend for help. The best part is, you can pay them in cookies, kindness, or a babysitting swap. Even if they don’t require payment, remember that it’s okay to ask for help, especially when you feel like you’ve given it your all. Maybe they just watch the kids for a few hours while you run errands, speed clean, or (don’t even for a second feel guilty about this one) take a nap. A friend in need is a friend indeed. And you can always return the favor.

Keep it in the family with a kiddo swap. Set up a swapping schedule for babysitting with another family so you can get a date with your partner, or even just a break from your kids. It’s okay to remember who you are for a second and not feel bad about that. And while you’re busy taking your turn with all those kids, remember how wonderful it’ll feel when it’s your turn.

You gotta put your own oxygen mask on before putting on anyone else’s. The same applies here. You’ve got this, mama! Take care of yourself first and don’t feel guilty about that outside help. Remember: “help” is not a luxury item. 😉


The #Momforce by Chatbooks Facebook group is a community and support group for women hosted by Chatbooks. Join us here for tips, tricks, and mom relief efforts.