How Venus Morris Griffin Created a Beautiful Life Amid Unthinkable Betrayal and Heartache
“People think it's something big and magical that you do to save your family. It's really not. It's the little things that make a difference.”
My story is about a girl who comes from a trailer park, worked two jobs to put herself through college, and had six kids, [ages] one to 15, with her college sweetheart… who got 45 years in prison. And figuring out how to rise above that.
After my husband went to prison, I remember coming home from the courthouse and sitting all six of them in a circle. I was very honest and I didn't sugarcoat it. I said to them, you know, I'm scared, I don't know what the future holds. But, the first thing we're going to do as a family is we're going to forgive your father, and we're never going to talk about it either. He's got 45 years to serve in prison, and that’s punishment enough and we're not going to judge him. And I’m going to pick myself up. I’m your mother and I’m going to take care of you.
I would tell her to be easy on herself. Know that you’ve got to put the oxygen mask on yourself before you can be a good mom to your children. You teach people how to treat you by the way you treat yourself.
When you're a mom, you really don't get a paycheck sometimes until 20 years later. And what I would tell moms is: every day you keep doing the little stuff, and you will get the biggest paycheck 20 years down the road.
You know, people think it's something big, something magical that you do to save your family. It's really not. It's the little things that make a difference. I committed to my kids that I would work as hard as I could, and I committed to having family dinner every night.
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